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    Race Play – When He Suddenly ‘Turned Me Off’

    I can remember that night like it was yesterday. The guy was hot, a fantasy come true. He was tall, bearded, blue-eyed, with a full head of hair, silver to be exact. Damn, the moment he walked in I was ready to strip down at the front door, but...
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    How to Score a Date After a Hook Up

    Meeting online via a hook-up app has become extremely commonplace, but many of us still get confused when we meet someone online who we end up liking. Some of us do not know how to appropriately switch from hook-up to date. When it comes to dating especially meeting guys...
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    Can I Please Stop Having Crappy Hook-ups

    “If you’re always ready, you don’t have to get ready” is a quote I wish someone would have shared with the last four guys that I’ve hooked up with who were all total bottoms over 40. If so I would not be needing to air my dirty laundry (pun...
  • Gay, Racism, LGBTQ, Internet Dating

    ‘Racism in Gay Dating?!?’ Will it Ever Go Away?

    As an African-American Black Gay male, I have experienced “I don’t date black men” or even worse, I’ve seen dozens of profiles with “NO BLACKS” plastered on them, and it is true, white gay men (NOT ALL), will defend their right to post that on their profiles because it’s...
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    Is Valentine’s Day for Lovers Only?

    I popped into Duane Reade recently and that candy isle filled with pink and red hearts has reappeared. Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. As I started to reflect on what’s in store for me this year, I’ve learned there is a growing trend to reframe Valentine’s Day...
  • Gay Relationship Advice

    Perfection is the Enemy of Love

    Sorry to break it to you, there is no such thing as finding the perfect man. I had a chat with someone recently who is in a relationship but for some reason finds himself going outside the relationship to party and have sex (PNP). But during his hook-ups, he...
  • Orgasm, Gay Men & Sex, Stuart Sanford, Cumfaces

    What Is Your Orgasm Face?

    Our orgasm face is something we either are embarrassed by or struggle to hide during a climax, an intense moment. It can also be a moment when two people connect. Our facial expressions can tell the full story; a story filled with the truth whether or not sex was...
  • Gay Relationship Advice

    STOP Talking About Your Ex!

    When you’re on a date, and you’re archaically waiting for the ultimate-date question of death something is wrong. You are either avoiding something or just not ready to commit to the process of dating and to get to know someone new. The question we all hate and would like...
  • Gay Relationship Advice

    Becoming Friends with Your Ex Ain’t Easy but is Possible

    Becoming besties with your ex can be painful and complicated at first but the payoff can be great. Many wonder if gay men can be best friends with their ex when the relationship ends. I’m a testament that it can happen, albeit after some time and work. For roughly...
  • Gay Dating Apps, Jack'd, Gay Men

    Stalkers Beware of Jack’d 4.0

    Safety and privacy have always been concerns of mine when using hook up apps like Grindr, Scruff, and Jack’d. I have personally witnessed guys taking screenshots of profiles to either save or share with other guys to compare notes. Once it happened to me, I was frustrated that guys...
  • Gay Dating Advice, Love at First Sight

    Love at First Sight, Is It Possible?

    I’ve been thinking about the idea of love at first sight recently and whether or not it’s possible. The way gay men hook-up and meet potential love interests has dramatically changed over the years making it simpler to connect to have sex, but pursuing someone beyond chatting or a...
  • Gay Men, Gay Relationship Advice, Sex Advice

    During Sex, Is It Okay to Talk About Someone Else

    Hook-up apps and websites have made it easier to find sex than love, but have they improved the quality of sex we are having? Without a doubt, we’re having more sex compared to when hook-up apps did not exist which also means our ratio of bad sexual experiences has...
  • Gay Dating Advice, Relationships, Gay Men

    Seeing Potential, Two Sides to the Story

    “He has potential” is a statement we’ve either said or heard when dating someone. Strangely my cousin and I were chatting the other day about relationships and how we date people who have potential. During our conversation, we both came to the conclusion that dating someone who has goals...
  • Books to read, Gay relationship Advice, 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman

    The Secret to Love that Lasts

    Why is love so complicated? Whether we’re in love, falling out of love or just longing for a new love the idea of love is something that does not come quickly or easy. When you find it, maintaining the essence of love is one of the most arduous tasks...
  • Gay Men, Gay Relationships, Lovemaking, Four-play, sexuality

    When Size Doesn’t Matter

    Does size and shape really matter? Most of us would probably say no in the grand scheme of our relationships, but when it comes down to pure satisfaction in the bedroom, I bet that answer would change. We’ve all said “it’s not the size of the ship, but the...
  • Lovely - Kinkster NYC

    How Technology Is Improving Your Bedroom Experience

    Do you always have sex on the brain? If so, you’re not the only one; men reportedly think about sex around eight times a day. Hell, if you’re like me, I think about sex every hour! I can’t be the only guy thinking about sex every second of the...
  • Recovery, Drugs, Alcohol

    Dealing With the Twisted Fate of Sex After Drugs and Alcohol

    The after effects of alcohol or chemical addiction can be traumatizing and may create fluctuating emotions and thoughts about sex, love, friendships, and how one goes about living without the negative substance and possibility the people connected to the source of addiction. Crystal meth was my drug of choice...
  • Gay Dating, Same-sex Relationships, Dating Tips,

    5 Steps to Prepare for a New Relationship

    The new year always sparks the love bug in me, and I am not the only one. A lot of guys at the beginning of the year reflect and think about finding love. However, finding love can be a challenge in the age of technology, and everybody is interested...
  • Gay Dating Relationship Advice, Gay Men, Communication Skills, Text Messaging

    Stop Texting Him And Start Calling

    Texting is no longer a trend but a way of life. Lately, I have been chatting with several friends who each say they are interested in a guy but they have arrived in the land of confusion because all they do is text one another. One of those friends...
  • Gay Men & Sex, Dirty Bedroom Talk

    Dirty Talk is Better Than Viagra

    The fear of talking dirty in the bedroom is not uncommon. Being verbal during sex might sound nasty, but for someone like myself, having a partner who is comfortable verbally in the bedroom is a major turn-on! A man who can tap into his inner Kinkster is a man...
  • gay relationships, pathology and relationships, Break-Ups

    The Pathology of Relationships and Breakups

    Fuck, why are relationships complicated? And why is it even harder to let go of them when they become toxic or unhealthy? A close friend of mine who is heterosexual and married is struggling with ending her relationship; a relationship, in my opinion, that was over a long time...
  • Gay Hook Up Apps

    Hook Ups, One-Night-Stands No Longer Anonymous

    Before the age of online dating and social networking apps, gay bars were the go-to place for gay men to meet other gay men and potentially hook-up. Nightclubs, community centers, and other social events where hundreds of thousands of gay men felt a sense of community have also been...
  • Summer Bae, Sashay Away?

    As the summer winds down, you may be wondering what is going to happen with your summer fling (flings, if you’re nasty). After all, the summer is a season based on rather shallow ideals. We tend to look the hottest we look all year, we are the most fun...
  • gay dating, same-sex relationships, effects of porn, gay men, LGBTQ

    What Porn Does to Intimacy

    Compartmentalizing the physical act of sex from the emotional side of sex is nothing new among gay men but when the physical and the emotional combine, the fireworks fly and you have the best sex ever. In his article for the Huffington Post, “The Real Reason Why So Many Gay...
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