You matter and your story matters!
Don’t let anyone’s opinion deter you from sharing your story. When you live in your own truth, are honest and live with integrity no one should ever cause you to feel that you’re a victim, a word I despise! VICTIM is a word that forces people back in a closet and makes them fearful of speaking up, causing them not to share their untold experiences. The state of the world is currently fucked up! And it’s not right, but as my mother raised me with the understanding that “if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.”
Yesterday I posted a raw and vulnerable video on Instagram and Facebook. My intention, share my story and publicly say #METOO!
Instead of hearing my message and feeling my buried emotion and painful accounts of not being able to go to the police because of the color of my skin, someone decided it was more important to comment and not positively. A “Caucasian” person accused me of having “crocodile tears” because he didn’t see tears, seriously! When you experience attempted RAPE as a black gay man, been DISCRIMINATED against, and with fears that a cop will mistake a phone for a gun, you cannot FAKE the tears and the pain you feel internally.
However, the person’s comment further validates the state of the world, says and a lot more about us as a whole. We’re living in a fucked and emotionally dead world. I am disgusted with the Jussie Smollett situation, and I stand by my words, and NO-ONE will ever be able to convince me otherwise. The Jussie Smollett situation has sparked emotions in men and many people who have been victimized and been in those situations and there remain untold stories. All I can say to those people who are naysayers, “please step aside with your petty judgments and let the true victims who have experienced racism and discrimination come forward and share their stories.”
The #METOO movement is real. To all of those who are #METOO survivors, please don’t let others tell you that being African American, black, trans, gay people does not MATTER or your opinion doesn’t matter.
Jussie’s story, his troubles, and his reasons for lying are grander than you and me. All he did was unveil the truth! Don’t be afraid of the truth!
Yesterday I felt broken because someone questioned my life, my journey, my truth, and I’m sad because I allowed it. I was defensive when I didn’t have to be. Whether or not I was NOT using my platform to piggyback on a horrific story!
I had a very good childhood. I’m an African American gay man that did not have the average upbringing that many black men and woman have or what Caucasian people are familiar with when it comes to black people in this country! However, that is not what’s important! What’s important is the fact that I do understand the struggles of a black gay man who was attacked by a Caucasian man who then basically (not literally) spit in my face because he said I dare you to call the police. I’m no longer upset! I’ve healed. But by sharing our stories we’ll help others; I believe that!
Crimes targeting African-Americans have also increased with 37 reported as of Nov 7, 2018, up from 30 in 2017, NYPD figures show. – The Patch. Please don’t ever be fearful when sharing your story. If it’s real and truthful, you can walk in your truth and let God do the rest.
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