I never imagined posting about writer’s block and my experience over the last five months has created interest and such a buzz. After posting my Instagram post, I’ve had several people asking me how I overcame my writer’s block.
“Breaking through writer’s block is like thinking out of the box, both require an ability to imagine a world outside your four walls or rearranging them to get a better view.” ― Susan J. McIntire
I hope you experienced a similar ‘aha’ moment after reading the above quote, but let me be transparent, my writer’s block is not entirely gone. However, it’s slowly dissipating.
Looking back, when no sentences were forming, my life was upside down. I was feeling lost, but importantly, I was hungry to learn. I was in an intake phase of my life.
What does the intake phase of your life mean? It’s easy to understand when you simplify it. We’re human computers and we periodically require updating! The information we’ve consumed up to that point has become stale-dated! Personally speaking, my experience with writer’s block was directly connected to triggering experiences and close relationships falling apart before my eyes.
I adapt to change fairly easily! Although the ambivalent relationships in my life were becoming more draining than a toxic relationship, these relationships were essential to me. Each one was no longer filling me how they did years ago. I had no clue how to adapt to the change in those relationships. The information and skills required to maintain a healthy relationship no longer served me. Repeatedly, I was working with stale-dated data that needed to be renewed.
I had reached a level and point in my life where the knowledge I possessed was useless to others. I needed to experience new things which included dating, meeting new people, arguing with friends and with my mother who I deeply respect and love.
Not until today did I realize those challenging situations and tough decisions I had to make during those five months were molding me and shaping my thoughts. During that period, I was being forced to examine the relationships around me, the ones I valued but required slight adjustments. Let’s use a familiar term, an upgrade!
I would read about writer’s block and various techniques others said worked for them, however, I can honestly say none of them worked. Relief came once I downloaded an app that allowed me to transcribe my thoughts and ideas. I’ve been able to email those thoughts and ideas to myself and begin to edit. There you have it. That’s exactly how I overcame writer’s block.
Needless to say, I’m still struggling, but I now understand that writer’s block is less about the process of writing. It’s more about what’s going on internally. Writer’s block is our stop sign letting us know that we’ve reached a plateau and our current state is in need of an upgrade. Our human experience of learning has reached its graduation point.
Once you reach a graduation point in life, it’s time to move on to life’s next lessons. If you’re experiencing writer’s block, are in a state of confusion, or everything around you appears to be moving in slow motion, it might be time to start learning new things, meeting new people, and of course having lots of sex. What can I say, I’m a real KINKSTER, sex clears the mind.
In conclusion, my writer’s block was due to personal issues in my life is an intake. I evolved to a place where I was no longer learning. My writer’s block was a direct result of me needing to learn new things, form new ideas, and opinions.
Let’s be clear, I did not sit back and do nothing. I distanced myself from ambivalent family and friends who were draining me and blocking me from growing and reaching a new phase in life.
Writer’s block is a process so you can gain more valuable information! Remember, we’re human computers updating our programs. Mine was updated over five horrible months, but today I smile. I’m smarter and have new ideas and opinions to share with each of you.