Experiencing a feeling without physical evidence is not odd, it’s what my mother would say is, “a gut feeling.” When we have a gut feeling, it’s a sense of knowing, but often, we reject the belief that what we are feeling is possible or even real. We believe our mind is playing tricks but, it’s not your mind, it’s an indescribable feeling. And if you told someone they might say you’re worrying too much and what you are feeling is nothing or you are over-thinking a situation and creating the situation in your mind. And sometimes we can do that.
However, we’ve been conditioned not to believe the feeling we are feeling, that rational thinking should take the lead in our decision making. My mother once told me, “your gut-feelings are not meant to be ignored and will never lead you in the wrong direction.” In essence, no matter how strange the feeling, my mother taught me to trust my gut and what it might be trying to tell me.
You can ask many people who survived a life or death situation. All would say an overwhelming feeling came over their body and they trusted what they were feeling so much that their actions saved their lives.
Another type of example, I used to socialize with a clique of friends who suddenly stopped talking to me, chatting with me on social media, sharing my posts, and it was alarming because it was not one person but several. Of course, I could have immediately addressed each person, but from experience, I’ve learned that it’s essential to step-back, and take note of who those people were, and without pointing the finger or blaming myself for something I did or didn’t do, assess the overall situation. I find in these cases, we also start to tear down the best parts of our character, making that part of the problem. However, in my opinion, that’s self-sabotage which can break your self esteem.
My mother also said it best, “everyone can’t come for the ride.” We’re always not apparent to the “WHY?” The why will reveal itself in due time. When you experience a gut-feeling, it’s time to slow down, pay attention, talk less and listen more because the answers to the feeling will soon appear unless you decide to ignore the sense, but in the long run, that’s not the best solution.
In most cases, our gut feeling is signaling us to change course or warning us to open our eyes, ears, and heart.
Judith Orloff, PhD, a Los Angeles–based intuitive psychiatrist and author of Second Sight (Three Rivers Press, 2010), one of my favorite authors, believes the benefits of listening to your instincts go far beyond making good on life-or-death decisions. “Living more intuitively demands that you’re in the moment,” she says, “and that makes for a more passionate life.”
But she also notes that gut instincts are far from infallible. The right brain’s skill with pattern identification can trigger suspicions of unfamiliar (but not dangerous) things, or cause you to be especially reactive to people who simply remind you of someone else. So how do you choose which gut feelings to trust? Orloff suggests that it’s a matter of “combining the linear mind and intuition,” and striking the right balance between gut instinct and rational thinking. Once you’ve noticed an intuitive hit, she says, you can engage your rational mind to weigh your choices and decide how best to act on them.
Of all the reasons to use your gut instincts to make big decisions, this may be the best: It leads to the choices that are most fully satisfying — decisions that can improve the quality of your life.
Francis P. Cholle from Psychology Today offers three ways to listen to that internal voice and allow its guidance into your everyday life:
1 – Keep a journal. Writing your thoughts and feelings down on paper—even if you “think” you have little to say—helps the nonconscious mind open up. You may find you’re writing words and phrases that don’t make sense to you, or stir emotional responses rather than intellectual responses. When this happens, it leads to:
2 – Turn off Your Inner Critic. Often times we rationalize away those voices within. This time, listen without judgment. Allow the inner dialogues to happen without fear or ridicule.
3 – Find a Solitary Place. A place where you can allow emotions to flow freely is an imperative part of finding and retaining the building blocks of intuition. Here you may also want to create an emotional connection to an object, a color, a piece of music or literature – anything that will allow feelings to stir that are solely from within and do not carry intellectual or rational reasoning.
These three exercises will aid you in creating a new, deeper relationship with the self, help clarify that inner voice, and allow you to bring your true instinctual awareness back into your rational everyday life.
Reference: Expereince Life: 5 Gut Instincts You Shouldn’t Ignore